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Even worse than a friendzone

I’m getting sick of the term friendzone.

Me too. And, more than that, I’m sick of the people using it.

Women are told almost constantly—by the media, the government, and the overall attitude of society—that our bodies don’t fucking belong to us. The mythical friendzone is just another way for misogynists to enforce that idea while getting to play the victim.

It sucks when someone you have feelings for doesn’t share those feelings; it happens to women all the time, too. We hear “I just want to be friends” and “you’re like one of the guys” and “you’re like a sister to me” just as often. But you’ll never hear a woman complain that guys just don’t appreciate a Nice Girl because we’re taught it’s our own fucking fault when we’re rejected—we aren’t pretty enough or thin enough or sexy enough, we weren’t sexual enough or were too sexual, we put out too much or too little or too soon or not soon enough, we didn’t wear our hair the right way or our skirt the right length, we’re “too tomboyish” or “too butch” or “too feminine”, or we’re “not their type”, or we’re otherwise not good enough in various ways to entice the man to grace us with his affection.

But when we’re not interested in someone, we’re vilified. We’re the bitch that lead them on, the bitch who let them buy us dinner but didn’t want to date them, the bitch who doesn’t appreciate a nice guy, the bitch they were nice to and then got nothing in return from.

And, frankly, fuck those people. Showing interest in me, being friendly with me, getting close to me, or eating a meal with me (even if they paid for it) doesn’t obligate me to open my heart or my legs. And anyone who doesn’t appreciate my friendship sure as hell doesn’t deserve my love or my pussy.

^this. Thank you. :D

Why can’t we just accept it when someone isn’t interested in you period? If they aren’t interested, why bother? Oh well, move on.

Why is it such a big deal about being “friendzoned”? Why not call it as it is: She isn’t in to you.

I don’t get it.

Is it because you placed effort into getting into her pants? Or was it because you wanted her love but it wasn’t anything past friendship?

If thats the case, it happens. Fine someone who will be. Like the poster above said, women get this too. Its life, shit happens, you move on, adapt and do something else.

Life isn’t all about fucking and ONLY finding someone to love. Its living your life and finding happiness along the way. 

Just sayin’

I might just be naive, despite being on both sides of the equation at least once, but I think the reason “friendzoning” became a thing isn’t because of true “she’s not into you” moments, but instead that moment when you KNOW a relationship would work between the two of you, but you choose to reject the option because you don’t want to risk breaking up the friendship.

The majority of cases where the term is used these days, of course, don’t really fall into that… The guy (saying guy because that’s who the discussion usually comes up about) ASSUMES the girl has reciprocal interest and is choosing to ignore it for above reasons, when in reality she’s just not into him.

I’ve been in both situations; I once called a guy my brother to hide that I had feelings for him, and later dated him for years. Another guy I assumed, due to his vague reasons for rejecting my advances, was simply friendzoning me (he later came out of the closet, boy did I feel dumb).

Not defending the “I’m fucked forever” mentality, because it’s still stupid as hell. just throwing a little perspective on the fact it was, once, a valid concept.